[KDhappygal]

Honestly, I don't even think about it.

I know my best friend, who has also adopted, is planning a shower for us. I know that and also know I will just leave it all up to her. I expect it will be either after we are out of PGN or not until we return home.

When they adopted, she made it very clear she did not want a shower before they brought the baby home and I think that makes a lot of sense for a lot of reasons. If you are missing or needing something before the shower it is unlikely the baby will ever know.

Of course we need the big things, car seat, stroller etc and just always figured we would provide those ourselves.

We did plan a huge surprise for our friends when they returned home. It was just before Christmas for them so we got a tree, dragged out their ornaments, decorated the house etc and instead of a shower where everyone was pysically present for the event, we had everyone drop off their gifts and we put them around the tree.

That was quite a home coming! The looks on their faces when they came into their own living room with the tree, the Christmas decorations and all those presents!