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What did your husband say happened? Also, if the school counselor had heard something abusive, she should have already reported it. As for the wedge between you and your husband, did the kids put it there? The girls have made false allegations before, how do you know this time is different? Are the therapists you're dealing with trained in foster/adopt or attachment situations?
I've had kids tell school counselors I lock them in closets(we have no doors on our closets), I starve them(I'm really not sure where that $600 worth of food went)and I had one really convincing child fool a teacher into thinking I punished him for doing homework. I had a kid tell me my husband beat him when my husband was out of town.
If a child can pit mom against dad, it takes all of the focus off them.
On the flip side, if it really happened, dad can't stay alone with the kids and all discipline reverts to you. Start keeping logs of your children's behavior and consequences. It may also be helpful for you and your husband to attend a parenting class(Love and Logic is my favorite). It will teach a new way of parenting without anger and should something be reported, you've already begun to fix the situation.
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