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Kelly B
No, do not assume that your bmom is not searching/ does not want contact!
1. Many birthmothers feel (some are even told by adoption professionals) that it is inappropriate to contact the children they placed. The common wisdom until very recently was that birthmothers should wait for their children to contact them when they were ready. Your birthmother may fear that contacting you would be an unwelcome intrusion into your own life. She may already feel guilty for placing you, and be reluctant to do more damage.
2. Many people search for YEARS, or even a lifetime, without ever finding the ones they are searching for.
I can't promise you your birthmother will be pleased to hear from you. I wish I could. But I think you should give it a try. There are many possible reasons she has not contacted you. You'll never know until you ask her.
Best wishes, Sharon
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