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First, congratulations! It's unusual these days for referrals from India to come sooner rather than later.
Second, of course you don't feel a bond yet. I know that some people claim to, but it's all so overwhelming to realize that there's actually a child waiting for you. A couple of pictures and brief biographical information isn't a lot to hold on to.
What should you do? First off, make sure you have a pediatrician that specializes in international adoption evaluate the medical records. Your agency should be able to recommend someone. This is important so you know what you're getting into.
How do you know if she's right for you? It's scary to hear, but you don't. But what is right? These things have a way of turning out all right in the end. Part of it is that children are programmed to love their caregivers and to want to please them.
It's completely normal to feel as if the whole thing is a fantasy. We picked up our daughter in May (Mother's Day!) and I don't think it really hit me that we were actually about to become parents until we were at the orphanage.
I'm still not sure I feel like somebody's mother. She's a great kid, but part of me _still_ feels like I'm babysitting. I'm not worried. Feelings evolve. The warm feeling increases every time she smiles when she sees me and when she cuddles against me at night as I sing her lullabies.
Congratulations again!
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