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Radio Doll
Well, you are absolutely, 100%, undeniably RIGHT......your birthmother is truly the loser here. I am sorry it didn't work out better. My meeting was successful......but disturbing. there is much dysfunction in my birthfamily, and I think the difference was glaringly obvious. Had I grown up with them, things would be different, not better at all. Whatever problems I had within my adoptive family, the benefits seem to have outweighed them by miles. I am happy to report that my meeting has totally reinforced my belief that I was EXACTLY where I was meant to be, good bad or indifferent! I am interested in establishing a relationship with my birthfamily, but there will not be the romance that I so often see expressed (in a mostly hopeful fashion) on these forums. We, above all else need to be absolutely REAL if we intend to search. There is at least as much a likelihood that there will be a disappointment at the end of the search as anything else. Forewarned is forearmed I am not disappointed so much as I truly had no expectations. Hopes, yes. but expectations, no. And it saved me much pain. Love, Debi
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