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Bonding with a new addition to the family doesn't happen overnight! I don't think that it's supposed to either.

I remember my Mom telling me this after my first child was born. I felt very strange the first few weeks and I told my Mom. She just smiled and said that falling in love with a baby takes a while. You have to get used to the work and change of lifestyle part first.

Rest assured that all will be fine. Be kind to your self and I bet in a few weeks you'll forget that you even felt bad.

When my youngest daughter had her first baby she went through terrible PP depression. I actually took care of her baby for the first five months while my daughter slept. But we supported her and now our beautiful Grand Daughter is 2 and has the most incredible Mom ever. My daughter and I have talked about what happened and we assure her that what she went through happens. We believe that the key is family support - and no criticism. Being upset only make the Mom feel worse and guilty.

I'm relating to a bi;ogical situation but we know adoptive Mom;s that have gone throught the same thing. My husband and i are almost finished with a special needs adoption and we know what to expect.

Always remember to take time for yourself and be kind to yourself! The sling idea is a good one too. Pretty soon you won't be able to put that precious little love bug down!

Good Luck and God Bless you all.