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I completely agree with you. Many times I have seen it posted that adoptees have the "Primal Wound" or "attachment disorder" because they go through "separation trauma" during birth and are separated from their bmother and no longer hear the same heartbeat "24/7". I've often thought, don't ALL babies go through those things? You bring up an excellent point regarding premature babies. There is a definite separation there. I'm glad after such a difficult start your 11 year old son did well.

I was left at the hospital and then was in seven different paid caretaker situations prior to being adopted at 13 months. If anyone is a candidate for "Primal Wound" or "attachment disorder" it is me. However, I have absolutely no memory of any life prior to my parents. My parents did take me to visit the last foster mother I was with a couple of times and believe it or not, I do remember her giving me a cookie that was chocolate covered with marshmallow in the center. I was probably three or four at the time. I swear to God that is still one of my favorite cookies.

I totally agree with your statement that " I cannot accept the theory a newborn can tell one set of loving arms from another". In reading the information in my non id report, I had no problem during the 13 months that I was passed around and it only took a week after being with my parents that the social worker noted that I "had adjusted well".

I think there are times where people have problems and they look for excuses to explain those problems. Many people raised by their bparents have the very same problem that people attempt to blame on adoption.