Natsmommy,
You must be reeling with hurt, betrayal and disbelief.
What kind of contact do you have with your daughter and her adoptive parents?
As always, I suggest that you get educated so that you can best help your daughter through this difficult time. Call you local rape crisis center and ask them for reading material on helping a child who has been sexually abused.
Also have a heart to heart with the adoptive mom. There is a good possibility that she is blaming herself for all of this. Ask her in what ways you can help. I know it is hard to trust, but just as you needed her 16 years ago, she may very well need you now.
Talk to her about getting unbiased counseling. How does Nat feel about this pregnancy? Does she want to parent. Is adoption even a consideration? Do not assume it is.
Where does Nat live? I might know someone in the area. Please call me if you want to chat or have anymore questions.
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Brenda Romanchik, Director
Insight: Open Adoption Resources and Support
721 Hawthorne
Royal Oak, MI 48067
Phone/fax: 248-543-0997
Expectant parent/Birthparent Resource line: 877-879-0669
Website
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org
brenr@openadoptioninsight.org