[monroeman]

Hi. Hope that you find the support you need here and elsewhere. I agree that foster adoption support is generally not all it could be. We foster adopted our son when he was about two and a half years old, after having him in foster care for almost two years. He'll be four in August. We also have two older bio kids.

You get to chose which date you want to celebrate, or if you even want to celebrate an adoption date. There is nothing wrong with doing it, but we have chosen not to. This works for us. Every family is different so like I said, you just choose what works for you.

Attachment. The fact that she comes back and checks in with you is a good sign. During the first 14 to 18 months our son was with us he would go with just about anyone who would hold him. In fact, he learned some pretty good avoidance behaviors. If we had to correct him or hold him or just have him sit with us because of his behavior he would reach out for anyone walking by. He now has "normal" behavior where he stays with us and even gets clingy at times in new situations. Our son has a hard time sitting still also; he's a ball of energy. If you're really worried about the posibility of an attachment issue, talk to a professional. Your daughter's behavior does sound like there's something more than an outgoing personality going on, but I'm not sure it's specifically related to an attachment disorder.

Hope all goes well with you.