Wanted to join shirleyville in applauding you for having the courage and honesty to post
"Have I thought about her every day since she was born? Nope. If I wanted to think about her every day, I would have kept her. Life is full of hard decisions that are neither right or wrong... they are just decisions you make, and then you move on..... most importantly: you move on"
What you have posted is to me, a very realistic attitude that adoptees do need to hear. Personally I have had a hard time with the attitude that "ALL" bmothers are helpless victims that have spent their life only longing for their lost child. Based on the number of bmothers that have refused contact it is so obvious that there are many different situations and attitudes. To often we only see one side that portrays a romantic and loving welcome. I believe it sets adoptees up with unrealistic expectations and increases the pain of rejection.
Congratulations on your reunion. Again, I think you showed great courage by placing a release of information on file the year your daughter turned 18 and then waiting until she was ready to find you instead of forcing things to soon. While you are obviously happy about now being in contact with your bdaughter, it is clear that it has not consumed your life.
With your patience and honesty I will bet that your reunion will be one of the more successful ones. Best of Luck to you!
