I suggest that you take time out to learn more about Adoptee issues, Megan. I think this is only a temporary lull in the Reunion. The young man (how old is he?) is very likely taking time out to process what he has learned. Many male adoptees show strong interest in meeting the birthfather early on in Reunion, while others couldn't care less. It's the birthmother they want to bond with.
Don't get depressed. Take this time to read some helpful books and articles on Reunion so you understand the kind of emotions you both will be experiencing.
Get a copy of the ADOPTION REUNION SURVIVAL GUIDE by Bailey & Giddens (it's in the bookshop on this site, or you can order from Amazon, or a local chain bookstore. This really offers helpful advice.
There are articles in the Adoption Library:
http://www.adoption.com
and in the Archives of the weekly newsmagazine ADOPTION WEEK, published once a week (Tuesday) by Adoption.Com
http://www.adoptionweek.com/showarticles.php
There are some good support groups, and the Chats and Forums on this site can be very helpful.
Also check out
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org
Be patient and be informed...keep the link to your son active. Send an e-greeting card now and then and a newsy email. Tell him his sibs are anxious to meet him, etc. But DON'T OVERWHELM HIM with attention.
Good Luck. Feel free to contact me if you need advice or support.
Hugs, Carol Bird
mcbird@bellsouth.net
WEB PAGE
http://home.bellsouth.net/personalpa...thparentPlace/