[vicrose]

Dear Lovemends....I once told someone I knew that whenever I would go down to the basement to do laundry..that I felt someone behind me all the time, they told me that I was imagining things...but sure enough I was right..because the day that my baby died..my mother in law went back to my home and brought all the baby's things down to the basement so that I wouldn't have to see them and cry when I walked in the door the next day that I came home from the hospital...and I would go down there everyday for a year until my next daughter was born and cry....and then we brought everything back upstairs....people don't know how to deal with another person's loss..unless they've had a loss like that themselves...we learned the hard way at our baby's funeral...when people would walk up to us and say that our baby dying was the Grace of God...and that we should be grateful...when what they should of just said was "I'm So Sorry", and leave it at that....but some people just don't know!!! Anyway....our daughter Victoria still follows me around in our new home...but only now I don't tell anyone..because you don't want people thinking your crazy or anything...right?! Love, Brenda