I probably should have posted WHY I wanted the names of the tests for RAD. (Duh!)
DH and I are going forward and trusting ourselves to know our son. He has made and continues to make progress. He's a happy little boy with many endearing qualities. Yes, he has a couple of areas where he needs some extra help, but the overall picture of our son is happy, fun to be with, ALL boy.
The reason I wanted to know the names of the tests was because I am writing to the clinic where DS was evaluated. I want a letter in his medical records there that discusses why we disagree with the diagnosis so that it will be on file. I plan to send a copy to our pediatrician, our child therapist and to the other program that we work with so that in all the medical records where his evaluation is on file there will also be my (DH's and my) letter that points out another perspective.
We aren't doing anything else as far as evaluations are concerned, other than to continue with OT and to also, when he's a bit older, have a neuro psych eval done. All of these will be toward ongoing education for DH and I so that we can parent him well.
I have learned alot through this process. I now know that I can trust myself. Particularly to know my own children and what is right for them. Sounds silly, but I really had placed an inappropriate amount of trust in the professionals around us. DH and I initially felt that we'd made a HUGE mistake in going to the children's clinic and having DS evaluated. I wouldn't do it again, and I'm a bit concerned about the label that was slapped on DS and the impact that will have in the future, but I learned some invaluable lessons so it wasn't a total waste. Just mostly a waste. I know what I'm willing to have done with and for my children; and, perhaps more importantly, what I'm NOT willing to have done with my children.
Thanks for the post, Louise.
