welcome
Hey Guy!
I am a lesbian, adopteed at birth and now just making contact with my birthmother.
I don't know if I believe that is any different YET. I may find out that my birthmother will break off reunion because I am gay, we'll have to see. But I don't intend on breaking the news to her until we have some sort of a "base" relationship going.
It was hard enough for my adoptive parents to go through that process!!! I too came out when I was 20. I am now 47, married to a wonderful woman. Although not "court legal" we were married in the Unitarian Church 10 years ago next month. We've been together a total of 13 years.
I have 3 step children aand 1 step grandson and both my family and my wife's family are very close with us.
My adoptive mother took my coming out VERY hard because of 2 things- 1. I can't bear my own children. 2. She adopted me and had expectations that I'd be somehow "the perfect child." She and my father have more issues with my adoption that I do! Ha! My poor parents! I always laugh and say that I was the science experiment that went wrong! Can't you imagine thinking that you went to the baby store and picked the worng one???@!!!!!
We've all spent many years learning to be a close loving family. My adopted brother and I don't speak. Oddly enough he married another adoptee and she's nuts. She decided that she should be the #1 daughter to my parents becasue she is "giving them grandkids to carry on the line..." it's been torturous. Oh well.
I have held off contact and reunion for years for many different reasons. But the time has come.
My court Investigator has called my birthmother. She is still in shock. I am giving her at least amonth before we will try contact again. She hasn't said much yet. I am waiting and trying to be patient.
PM me anytime. You are certainly not alone on these boards, although many won't tell you that.
Best wishes - Radiodoll
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