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Yes, the therapists are definately helping with parenting techniques etc. My DH and I are now hopeful when we leave therapy sessions. THat wasn't the case before, to say the least.
As far as learning what living on the streets is like, a few yrs ago when being part of the family was a problem for her, she spent Christmas working in a soup kitchen instead of being with us.
And of course I'd call the police if she ran away - that's a known fact - I've done it! But she knows she can walk out the door without doing a plan. I'm confused about your statement "it isn't optional" - because I don't see how you can "force" someone to write a plan if they refuse. She has an option of running away without a plan. What am I not getting? I am in control of what I do, but not what she does.
Most parents can send their child to their room when they act up, my daug just refuses to go. I'm sure you understand what I mean.
"simply remind her" - I can't get a word in edgewise - she interupts, yells, walks away, etc. She's usually in a high state of agitation when there is any discussion.
I'm not balking at your advice, no way! I was just telling DH how great it is to get advice from someone who has teens with rad. I just need some explanation on how you've dealt with some of these issues. I hope it is something I can use. Always looking for tools.
And you are right, when her welfare is in question, she doesn't get a vote, if I think she's in need of something, I go for it. She claims therapy, dr's etc are emotional abuse. THat doesn't stop me from making the appts., hosp when nec, etc.
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