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I would not recommend an RTC. For attachment disordered children, they're easier then living in a family. The RTC staff will also see you as crazy because your daughter will act fine for them. My son went to RTC only after repeated attempts to kill me and an attempt to kill a younger sibling. Except for extreme cases where the child is placing others in danger or are too dangerous to themselves for you to control, RTC's are a poor answer.
I would have expected your daughter to react the way she did. You did exactly what she needed you to do and how dare you love her that much. You also stopped her feel sorry for me train.
When my teens have threatened to run away, I have them make a survival plan. I'm going to so and so's house gets the reply good idea, then they'll call me and the police will know where to pick you up. Would you like them to drop you at juvi or home?etc.
One child said he'd hide in the woods. It was 100 degrees at the time and he had no plan for water. I informed him he's be dead and where would he like to be buried? I also had one look up the numbers of several pizza places so we'd be able to get the pizza before the police needed us to come down and claim him.
The therapist always tels them to wear comfortable shoes and to eat lunch first. Measuring their room for the new home gym is good also. My friend's daughter use to run away a lot so she took her room and told her she didn't hold rooms for run aways.
Whatever you do, do not let her engage you in an argument. Asking questions is useful also. If my children are being unreasonable I simply agree with them. "Yes, I am stupid, how could you tell?" Then when they want something like dinner or a ride-"oh honey, I'm sorry, I'm too stupid to do that."
Hang in there and give the therapy some time to work.
Read 99 ways to Drive Your Child Sane for relaxation. I forgot the author's name and I can't find my book. I think Tapestry books has it.
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