[neebob]

Just thought I'd update. THanks Lucyjoy, for your advice. I spoke with Social Services and they adviced me to just call the guardians and tell them they were to have no more contact with my daughter, etc. If they chose not to comply, I had legal avenues. I'm not going to lay it all out here, but you get the drift.

Of course, when I told my daug that we had done this, she blew. (I told her because I didn't want her finding it out from the guardian.....I need to build trust with my daug.) I have tried to explain it wasn't something she did, that the this wasn't a punishment for her etc. That adults needed to behave responsibly etc etc.

I hope this helps with treatment. However, things have digressed to the point that all my daug talks about is getting out of the house, if that doesn't work running away, if that doesn't work....etc.
She is completely confrontational - all the time! It's exhausting to live with her. She has been distorting nearly everything her dad or I say to her, and it is also nearly impossible to reason with her. Could there be something else going on here too?

I was just reading a thread about rtc's and losing custody of one's child to social services. I need to find out what the deal is my state, but even if temp cust went to the state, what does that do to the status of the adoption? If that situation comes up for us...and it might.

And lucyjoy - as far as her social life goes, she pretty well sabotoged that with continually swearing at us (no phone, no email) not being were she's supposed to be (going out) failing a class at school (just got the letter today, deciding what to do).