[kmalay]

Using Mom or Mamma (first name) is very typical. The amom is usually Mom. I can understand your concern about having the open adoption, but I will share this with you. We are in the process of adopting two boys(we have not met them yet) we are waiting for the TPR to happen, we are figuring the parents are going to fight it all the way, but dad isn't really an issue due to past history. Mom could be, but they are thinking that if we are willing to maintain contact through the agency then maybe she would voluntarily tpr. I was fine with this and actually until I read the file I would have offered visits, but after what I read I doubt it would ever be safe to do that. What you have to realize and it is hard with state adoptions to think in these terms is that in many ways it can be best for the children to maintain some contact. I know for my boys even though they are starting to drift away from their parents because it has been so long since they were taken away they still worry about their parents. Down the road it may be good for them to have some contact. Just make sure it is safe. In our case it would not be appropriate to let them know what city we live in etc...... It is sad, but that is the way it is. I wish you the best and keep us posted. I am interested to see if she agrees to it since we will be facing the same thing in the next 6 weeks.