After our second adoption, I wanted to adopt again because it is exciting, full of hope and dreams, and fun. What I needed to do was work with and enjoy the kids I had. That was much harder and less glamorous so to speak. Fortunately, our second couple had so many problems, it became clear that adopting again was not an option. I let go of dreaming and got down to business. Six years later, we did adopt again. Things worked out like they were meant to.
I am not saying that this is your situation. This is just what I experienced. Something to consider. Best Wishes.
