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have truth, can't tell adoptive parents!
My birthmother found me in 1987 (on my b-day!). We have a wonderful relationship, but we have to keep it hidden from my birthparents. My father would probably be OK, but my mother would 1) be INCREDIBLY hurt and 2) lay on the guilt BIG TIME.
I want this to be all out in the open because I'm tired of living the lie. Plus, I have a 9-year-old who doesn't understand why she has four grandmas (birth, adoptive, step and in-law). She needs to know or she'll be as messed up as me! Should I tell my adoptive mother? (It would devastate her ...) Should I perpetrate the lie and tell my daughter but tell her to keep it a secret?
What to do????????
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