[aMarylandfamily]

The advise and words of wisdom shared by lucyjoy and now by you really do help. Knowing we are not alone with our frustration helps so much.

Our hearts and support will always be with our child but we must be realistic as to what can and cannot be - he cannot hurt himself or others! Sabotaging visits home send a message loud and clear that he is not ready ... despite the therapist's opinion that this is a cry to return home faster - to be wanted/needed. He must account for himself ... we all do at many points in our lives from school to work to family. Our biggest hurdle is making him and them understand that two weeks afterwards without the issue at hand being addressed does not make things return to ok ... we will get there - the long road way but there.

Keep us posted on your situation too - also know that you are doing what is in the best interest for your child ... now and in the future as they won't have a future if we don't direct them the services needed to get there - even when it's painful for us to walk the steps associated with them getting there.