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at our house
I have 3 kids all were SA victums.... My baby was away from it soon enough, not real acting out problems. Other two, not so lucky, and you never ever never can really know what goes on when you are in the bathroom, outside getting mail, and if they share rooms with any one.
Also, there are so many long term effects---- I think a lot of the kids grow up thinking that is all life is about and that is the only way to relate to others and thus sleep around or do anything with any one.... How to treat that???? Hopefully you can find a good therapist who will at least explore it, but the best we seem to be able to get here right now is every other week sessions and I know that does not do any one any good.
Things that have help::: de-sexualizing the environment-- no perverted comercials and no r-rates or even pg- rated moves. Plenty of activities where having sex with others is not important--- (One of my kids was forced to participate in group sex and she was in shock that when we went to church all those grown ups got together and didn't have sex and still had a good time)
If sexually acting out is not there, but it most likely happend, keep the lines of communication opened. Read the Courage to Heal hand book and see what you can apply to your situation----also I think the title of the book is Treatment of Sexualized CHildren by Eliana Gil and someone else. It is kid of depressing, but informative about the topic.
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