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How old is A?
We have two sibling groups that we have open adoptions with. Unfortunely, the parents aren't appropriate around the children and all the children have severe meltdowns after the visits, so visits have stopped. We still have cards and pictures when ever the kids want to send them. The parents never send the kids anything.
I would say no visits the first six months. You have to establish yourself as A's parents. I don't know the reasons WHY the tpr took place, but if it's due to abuse, seeing the bio is going to trigger behaviors in A that you'll have to deal with after the visits.
I would start out VERY slow. You can always increase. We also added a clause in our agreement that if the child's therapist felt the visits were detrimental to the child or if the child no longer wanted the visits, we would discontinue them until such time that was appropriate.
Good luck with your adoption!
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