[Sharon]

CortonaGirl, you didn't mention b-father being in the picture, so I assume he isn't. I think you should be open with your son when he's older... I don't know what age would be appropriate for such a revelation. You know your son best and you will have to decide when he is mature enough to understand. I would tell him that his birthmother was alone with no family support, because her family was unwilling to accept a bi-racial child. Nevertheless, she wanted what was best for him (as another poster mentioned, if she just didn't care one way or the other she could've had an abortion) and so she chose to give him to a family that could love him unconditionally for who he was. To me, the fact that she had some sort of relationship with a black man indicates that she herself is not racist... but perhaps her circumstances were such that without family support she could not offer your child the life he deserved. I hope the family's racism was not the ONLY reason she chose adoption... maybe she had a number of reasons for feeling that you could provide a better life for her child than she could. But like you said, your son may reunite with her at some point in the future, and if racism played any part in her decision it's better he find out beforehand so that it will not be such a terrible shock. To me, it's heart-breaking that people still hold onto such attitudes in this day and age. I wish you and your son the best of luck. Sincerely, ~Sharon