I hate to tell you but he'll face racism long before you should feel the need to mention about his mother's reason's for giving him up. I have six adopted bi-racial siblings and they have all faced it at one time or another.
Your son is lucky he has one parent who is black and one who is white, because that is what he is. In fact you as his parents must have faced some instances of racism, so you'll be very understanding with your son when it happens to him. Just as you are understanding of his biological mother's spot. Just raise him the way I know you will, your love and support will help him face discrimination as he grows up.
When he is young you can tell him that his biological mother loved him, but was unable to keep him. When he gets older, and if he wants to know more, you can mention she couldn't support him financially. Then when he's 18 and if he says he wants to meet his biological mother, then I think you can tell him the whole story, and he'll have his own experiences to understand more how she could have done this.
I have a feeling your son will surprise you with just how well he will take it, when he's older. I don't think it's something you need to drop in his lap when he's 3 or even 10. He won't have experienced enough in life yet.
One of my brothers biological mother's said she was raped, and my mom had to tell this to my brother when he started his search. So there are lots of hard stories out there. But my brother is fine, and so will your son.
Have fun and enjoy your baby!
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