[Cortonagirl]

Ok, my adopted son is only 10 months old. His Birthmom relinquished him because the bF is AA. She claims HER family would "disown" her if they found out, so she goes away to have this baby. Now we adopted him and down the road if he wants to know why he was placed for adoption, what would you tell him?

Now, I can't say enough good things about her, she is a loving mother of another son (caucasian) from a previous marriage. This was heartwrenching for her to do and yet she had/wanted to remain close to her family Obviously rascism is strong where she comes from so this pregnancy was a huge secret, one she'll have to carry for the rest of her life.
I am able to send pictures and letters, and she appreciates them but I'm more worried about my son.

Some day he may want to talk to her and find out the whole story. I don't want him to think he was "rejected" because of his color. We are an interracial couple who plans to raise him with a healthy attitude about being black and to be very proud! I just worry so much that he will be hurt because his skin wasn't white. Actually, she's VERY poor too, so that's another reason which I could emphasize. However, he could never go there to visit.

Anyone have any suggestions? I want him to feel good about his birthmom!