[Sharon]

I'm so sorry your b-mom is unwilling to acknowledge you. This is so inconceivable to me... but I've read many similar stories on this forum and I'm beginning to realize that birthmothers who placed their children back in the 50s and 60s must have been almost brainwashed into believing that the best thing was to "forget" and "go on with their lives". I know this must be really painful to you. My heart goes out to you and the many other adoptees on this forum who have been denied by their birthmothers. Attitudes toward adoption have changed so much in recent years, and I think in the future birthmothers will be much more open to contact than they were in the past. I know this doesn't help with your situation.
I'm sorry your adoptive mother has passed away, but I'm glad you've still got your dad to rely on for love and support. If your birthmother continues to refuse contact with you, that is her loss, not yours. Again, I'm very sorry about your situation. I hope at some point in the future she will change her mind. I'm sure she would be happy to know you were raised in a loving home, and proud of the person you've become, if only she could overcome her fear and get to know you. Best wishes, ~Sharon