[lucyjoy]

Dr. Art,

While those may be good places for kids, they often refuse children whose problems are severe. They refused mine. I managed to direct my child's therapy in a normal RTC. They didn't like me, but my son is now home and doing well. I had to write more limits into my child's levels which was easier after I educated his therapist about attachment.(Who , of course, didn't believe me but was smart enough to ask other professionals about what I said. They backed me up). What she can do, is hold her son accountable. Even an RTC cannot justify allowing a child to skip therapy and still get a pass. They also can not back up the theory that a child should be allowed to have no rules at home on a pass. Even normal RTC rules don't go along with that. My son had 2 attachment intensives and worked with a home based trained full time attachment therapist, I have extensive training on attachment parenting and my son was too dangerous to be anywhere but an RTC and 30 refused me before I found one that would take him. Until my child decided he had to change if he wanted a better life, nothing was going to work. We did not expect him to attach to us on his return home, only to follow societies and our house rules. He is attaching. A reguar RTC can have some effect if the parents remain proactive. The best set up? NO! But, for most of us, the only one.