[Paul's Mom]

Dr. Art,

I have a 5-year-old boy, adopted from Russia that has been diagnosed with RAD. In the past, we have had bad experiences when we tried to get a night out. Friends that claimed to educate themselves, we found to be very easily manipulated by our son.

We have met a woman and now friend who has been a foster mother to a child with RAD for six months and has been a great source of comfort and would like to help us and watch him when we need time away. I am pretty confident from talking with her many times that she knows the disorder very well and knows how to handle most situations.

My question is, should there be some sort of plan of activities or just what she should do with him while we are gone?

Should I provide snacks, toy, etc?