[Angelwings2002]

sspete.....I understand what your feeling all too well. I searched for and found my daughter in 2001. I initialy made written contact with her aparents. Finally this past March I recieved an email from Jenn...we emailed casually for 1 month. This is when she asked me to give her "some time" and "when she was ready for contact again she would get ahold of me". My daughter is 18 and just graduated from High School this past Sunday.Remember our children are still very young and are starting to test the waters of adulthood,and are trying to find their place in the world.


All we can do is be Patient and give our children the time they ask for to sort through all the thoughts and emotions that come with reunion. We as Bmoms have had many years to prepare for the reunion...our children have not.

I guess sometimes we just get so caught up in the moment and want it all right now....unfortunatly sometimes it doesn't work out that way (as you and I ..and I am sure many more have found out) . And what can we do???? ...absolutely NOTHING !..but be PATIENT. My daughter gave me no reason for wanting no contact at this time. But I respect her enough to give her whatever time she needs...even though it broke my heart when I read those words.

I am a Reunited Adoptee ( 17yrs ) and was found by my bfamily when I was 20...I didnt pullback or ask for time... I actually didnt have a choice or any control in the reunion process...I was just sorta thrown into the mix. Maybe I should have ..than maybe my reunion with my bfamily would have turned out to be a good thing..(whole nother story).

Be PATIENT and things will work out..I know easier said than done.

"Things are not always as they seem
remember to look outside the box"