[crathke]

I read your post last night (couldn't take the time to frame an answer right then) but it struck me that your son sounds like a very mature young man. A lot of people his age would either rebel against change for change's sake or just shrug and say "whatever". The fact that he has his concerns categorized and can lay them out for you is commendable!

If your son is aware of "bonding issues", then I would imagine that once your daughter is home, he will be very aware of the steps it will take to help her feel she belongs with you. It sounds to me as if he'll be a wonderful "big brother"!

As Anita said, the language issue is only an "issue" for a very short time; our son (3) has been home for four months and we can actually tell when something new has "clicked". The strides he has made are amazing!

Best wishes to your entire family~!