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Jennifer, I hear you loud and clear! I am an adoptee and I can remember when I was young my adoptive grandmother said to me, "I saw a picture of a girl in a magazine today that looked just like you, it must have been one of your kin." It felt as though a knife went right through my heart. It was at that moment that I feared that I was somehow different than the other family members. Some years later I was at a family-get-together at my adoptive grandmother's house and she was asking all the family members what they would like of her belongings when she passed on. I spoke up and said that I would like some of her perfume bottles and some of the pictures of her and grandpa when they were young. Latter that night I over heard my adoptive aunt say to another family member, "Why does she want the pictures? She doesn't look like them and she can't compare them to her children." It was at that moment that the fear that I was different was confirmed! Now, forteen years later, I realize why my adoptive parents never liked liked my aunt and why we hardly ever visited my grandmother!
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