[Rayma]

Colin,

I'm hapy for you! Anything that works for you is good (as long as it's not a "pasifier" a "placebloe" so to speak. The hard part is ripping off all those layers of negative feelings. Some people want to surperes these feeligs, but we must enbrace them, own them, before we can heal. I hope the books aredoing that so the healing will become a part of you. Have you tried "feelings Buried Alive Never Die..." By Karol K. Truman? It deals with feelings, stress, and the soul. My N.D. recomended this book. I think it's good, but I haven't fiished it yet. I also recomend "I Can't Get Over It - A Handbook for Trauma suvivers" by Aphrodite Matsakis Ph.D.

Congradulations, I think it that a real man to read and apply "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars". This shows that you are a very caring and lovng person, to want to understand where your girfriend is comming from. I'm sure that you're relationship is getting better and better. With understanding comes loving support, and strengh.

Take good care of yourself, Rayma