jl, thanks for starting a new thread, the other was getting quite long...
Kare, thanks for sharing your experience. Maybe he's just testing the waters to see if you will still want him, even if he behaves badly. I went back and read your other posts from the old thread and you had such a good first experience where he even opened up a little when you hadn't expected it. I know it must be disappointing but it sounds like you are in it for the long haul when you say, "It's good it happened now, because we know what we're dealing with." He's had 13 years to learn bad habits from and be hurt by adults...you've only had a few visits to show him how much you care and won't be like "the others." Of course this is just MHO.
Thanks for the subsidy info. I'm not in this for the money, but it's nice to know what's out there for the kids in order to help make life better for them.
We are having a meeting with our childrens' worker and foster mother on Monday!! We received the adoption disclosure last Friday and decided we want to go for it. Our adoption worker had us create a list of questions to ask and I faxed them to her first thing Tuesday. Then she contacted the childrens' worker and it's all set up for 1:00 on Monday. The meeting is about 2 hours from where we live...not too bad compared to 5+ hours that some (Kare) drive. Then we were told that we would set up a time to meet the kids soon after this meeting (within a week or so). I CAN HARDLY WAIT. We have already "claimed" these kids and we haven't even met them yet...is that weird???
I have one problem that I think I know how I'm going to handle already, but just in case there are some better ideas I haven't thought of yet... We have been preparing for 1-2 boys....and we have redone a room that (I think) looks great. It's an airplane theme (my husband is an aircraft mechanic) and has clouds with planes hanging from the ceiling. The walls are blue and it has a great boarder. There are bunk beds and matching bed linens...ready and waiting for a boy or brothers. Now we are matched with a brother and SISTER. Which means another room, however we have only lived in this house about a year and the blue room is the only one that's been done. (We gutted the whole thing, tore down plaster, put in drywall, redid the floors, etc.) So now I feel AWFUL to show our son his great room and then show the undone (off-white painted wallpaper starting to curl, ugly brown painted floor, no real color scheme, etc.) to our daughter. Now my thought is too say that we decided how to do his room because he is younger and since she's older we thought she should have more say in colors/style. Do you think this will fly? We are VERY excited to be getting a girl too, it just was unexpected. I'm also hoping that having the project of decorating HER room will make the transition to our family easier. The flip side is that she thinks we didn't want her cuz she doesn't have a room ready....I don't know why this stuff drives me so crazy...lol
Well I need to get going. As always thanks in advance for all replies!!
