[claylisa00]

Fostering is a good way to get to understand all the problems you'll deal with when you get ready to adopt. We went to class and learned about attachment disorders, adhd, etc., but no matter how much you read or research, you won't understand what it really and truly looks like in a child until you see it face to face. You'll learn what you can deal with and what you can't. Fostering isn't for everyone, it's terribly heartbreaking to see the kids leave, no matter how long you've had them. We haven't had a lot of placements (1 for 6 months, and 3 for a week or less) but we know enough to realize that it doesn't get easier to say goodbye. We have to say goodbye tomorrow in fact, then we're childless again until, well, who knows. We just try to suck it up and keep in mind that those kids are hurting more than we are, and we have the option to get out of this if we want, they don't have any options. We're just trying to help as many as we can until one comes along that God wants us to keep. We may even continue after that happens, who knows. Good luck with your decision.
One good story for us is that one of our former foster kids and her dad are coming over this weekend for a cookout. Sometimes the birth parents really appreciate what you did for their kids and keep in contact so you can still talk to and see the kids. It makes it so much easier to talk to them on the phone or e-mail, and see them and know that they are fine and happy. That one good experience will outweigh the heartaches, but won't make them disappear. Good luck.