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I think I may have found my birthfather (in fact I am almost positive) and I too am trying to get over the anger that I have because I have to walk on eggshells trying to not hurt him, his family, etc. just by existing!And
Although I can understand birth mother's feelings especially if they had a horrible time when we were born, I guess I don't understand how they can choose to shut out their own children!
The laws in most states need to be changed also. I believe most of them have been made by non-adoptees who have no idea what we go through. It is hard not to feel like a second class citizen when our very ancestry is kept from us and the genes that we carry in our own bodies are a mystery!