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Piano
I understand what you are saying, I am an adoptee too. It does hold a certain stigma...and we are made to believe that we should be "greatfull" that we were wanted by someone. It irritates me, but I am not ashamed...my adoptive parents made me believe that I should never be ashamed of who I am. I was a situation I had no control over...and I was not given a choice. I remember hearing remarks like you stated, and they did bother me at first. But they do not bother me much anymore, because I know who I am. I am not only an "adoptee", I am a wife, a mother, a friend, a daughter, an aunt...all of those things. And that is what I concentrate on. What bothers me most is society feels that we (adoptees) have NO rights. We have no right to our identity, our family, our roots. Its some big secret! Like I should have something to be ashamed of...like I should not "intrude" on my birthfamilys life. She chose this, not me! Anyway, I hope I made some sence.
baby girl searching
03/22/75 ft worth tx
Edna Gladney
Pamela
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