Adoption Has a Stigma! I Could Never Accept It!
I have always felt that being adopted had such a terrible shameful stigma attached to it. It has always been such a shamrful closeted issue with me. People and their remarks will tear me apart. I am now 36 years old.
When I was little I got the comment: "She's your mom? Well, you don't look like her!! Were you like, adopted or something?" All this has really embittered me so much that I cannot tell anyone.
I have tried to have some acceptance of this issue, but it is nearly impossible for me. I would also get comments like, "You're just like their own, huh?" And I would turn around and say, "What do you mean LIKE their OWN? I am their OWN!" And I'd put the emphasis on "OWN!"
And I don't like hearing people say, "They had 3 natural children and 1 adopted." Why mention adopted? How about "They had four children?" What is the true difference anyhow other than genes?
Adoption is made to be something altogether different. It is as though you might as well be wearing horns on your head or something. And yet, I hear other parents in my family and otherwise that seem so proud to tell about it. How do they get their children to accept it without this STIGMA of people and their DUMB remarks?
Please reply and let me know what you have been through as a parent? Is anyone out there in denial also? If so, why? I'd love to hear from others! Thanks!
Jennifer
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