[Graham]

as once quoted by Mr. Beavis and Dr. Butthead, "there's too many letters to spell IT - he he."
I think this thread is one of the best we've ever had, and thanks to everyone especially Barksum and Louise, who have been on this Board since its inception. As they both suggest, "beware of the diagnosis de jour." I too have been paying a lot of attention to the thoughts of FAE/FAS advocates, who seem to have recently come out of a closet and, together with some reformed RAD devotees, are trumpeting the misdiagnosing of our children, especially by attachment proponents. In fact, I'm putting together an FAS training series for families as we speak, and once again I'm less sure of the answers than I was even last year. The truth is we know much more than we did twenty, ten, five, two, one year ago, or even last week, and we always will. I'm told that even Freud wondered, reportedly in private, if it wasn't the ultimate arrogance to assert that one understands the human mind. The bottom line is actually simple. Someone has to take care of the children, and if not you guys who actually give a **** and are willing to risk your emotional safety, then who? The letters may not ultimately count for much at all. Thanks for this wonderful thread.
Graham