[jennhauck]

Hi everyone. I am married to Ave's stepfather who adopted her. We have been married for 11 years now and have three children of our own.

My husband was married to Ave's mother when Ave was around 7 years old. Ave did not inform in her post that her mother was married and divorced 5 times before she married my husband, and is a diagnosed manic depressive woman who tried to kill herself twice when Ave was little. One of those times was while my husband was married to her, and he saved her life.

While my husband was married to Ave's mother, he took on the obligation and moral duties as Ave's father. He was a good father to her. They also had two boys, twins, as a result of this marriage. Since his divorce to Ave's mother, he was awarded by the court full custody of the twins, with no visitation rights allowed by the mother. This just shows what type of person Ave's mother is.

After the divorce, Ave had no contact with my husband, her stepfather, the man who took care of her when her biological father relinquished that right to him. Because she was adopted by my husband, he continued to pay child support through the court, since she was a minor living with her mother.

Through the years, my husband has purchased gifts for her, given her extra money (above and beyond child support), and kept her on his health insurance policy as she continued on through college (which he was under NO obligation whatsoever to do). He felt that even though he divorced her mother, Ave was STILL his daughter and was going to take care of her as such.

My husband is a very loving, well liked, and very kind and gentle man; and it dissapoints me that Ave would write such terrible things about the man who took her under his wing and raised her when her own father chose to give up his little girl. Ave' needs to think about how convenient it must be for a father who gave her up so easily, to re-establish a relationship with his child when she is grown. All of the hard work of raising her done at that point.

To put all of this in nutshell, the post by Ave is nothing but a retaliation written by a spoiled, unempathetic, and miserable person. Her own half brothers don't want to have anything to do with her because of the lies and rumors she has spread about their father.

Now, the question is if I believe that step parent adoption is a mistake. In some cases, maybe. But it isn't always the child that is the victim.