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Thanks for all the replies. My husband and I are both required to go on the second trip; that's when we stand in court to formally adopt the child. I was told my husband could go alone on the first trip; however, I was also told by people who've done this that we should really both go because that is when the child is chosen and both parents should be in on that decision. I guess there are a lot of health issues and we should discuss what we are willing to handle and what we aren't, as well as both really agreeing on who is the right fit for our family.
As far as bringing the kid(s) along...I was never really leaning toward that, even though I'll miss them terribly, because #1) I don't like them missing all that school #2) it wouldn't be like a vacation; there's lots of paperwork and shuffling around and strange food and long plane trips--I don't think they'd like it #3) I don't think I'd be able to concentrate fully on what I'd be there to do if I was busy w/ my other kids' needs and finally #4) it's already a big financial strain--any extra plane tickets would just be too much.
I've had a dear friend step forward the other day and volunteer to come stay w/ the girls for at least one of the trips. She lives in another state and has a domestically adopted 1 yr old boy whom she'd bring along. It would be perfect practice for my girls on what a little brother in the house would be like, and they just love my friend...so I feel fairly good about the travel aspect now.
Julie
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