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We have two bio kids - one 15 and one 11 years. We decided to adopt because it is something I always wanted to do. As a child I had many friends who were adopted and I always thought it must feel so wonderful to have been wanted by your parents so much that they went through the adoption to get you (of course at that age I didn't think about the loss of the birth parents). We are adopting a 6 year old girl. She is coming to live with us next week. Anyway, we get all kinds of comments from friends. Most people are supportive although we do get some comments like -"she has the same color eyes as you, people will think she is actually yours". These comments I ignore. The negative comments, believe it or not, came from our family. I think they were truly concerned about us taking on more than we could handle, but it got out of hand. We finally had to sit everyone down and let them know that it was our decision, not theirs. This was not a pleasant conversation, led to many hurt feelings and even many months of not talking. What I've learned is I know what is best for my family and what others think isn't what is important.
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