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what i looked for
I placed my daughter in a very open adoption last summer, and I looked at a lot of different factors when considering a family for her.
Based on what I've read and what I know from my own experience, I would think that you'd be waiting longer because you're 1) a same-sex couple, 2) already raising four kids, some of whom are practically grown and 3) in Canada. I'm not sure what the adoption laws are in Canada, but my guess is that American women considering placing their babies for adoption are more likely to choose American families.
If you are really serious about wanting to adopt, figure out what level of openness you are really comfortable with, and be prepared to answer a LOT of questions from potential birthmoms.
I personally did not consider anyone with older children, but had I, I probably would have wanted to talk to the teenagers too before handing over my child. So be prepared that someone might ask that. And be prepared to answer "why do you want to adopt, given that you already have older children?"
Emma
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