[jolin4utopia]

Isabo
"jolin4utopia was VERY wrong to suggest pressuring the mother to relinquish."

I did not suggest that you pressure the birthmom. It has already been stated that she is willing to relinquish. I just believe that if she is ready to reliquish then you should do it quickly. Adoption is not a light matter. I dont believe in taking away someones baby that wants to raise the baby. That could cause unknown damage, our birth mom is the best and I would never want for her to feel undue pressure. On the flip side it is completely unfair and puts alot of pressure on all parties if the paper work is not signed. We are adopting again and we have personally encountered 6 potential birthmoms who were considering adoption. Each time they have said that they wanted to raise there child. I feel a bond tward these girls but never have I ever pressured them. There word is final and now I find ways to help in any way I can. I am going to have a photo session with one of the moms while she is super pregnant. I think she will enjoy seeing those while her child is getting older.