[jolin4utopia]

First of all this could be very exciting, are you okay with this... Wow I know that I would have alot of resentment. We adopted my brothers baby and I was amazed at how it all worked. As soon as he said that the baby was not going to be adopted by someone else the potential adoptive mom, agency and social worker left. Then it was all up to us, we had the birthmom relinqish 72 hours after delivery. My brother was not ready at that time so he relinquished for a christmas present to us. My advise to you is get her to relinquish as soon as possible. Then the ball is in your court and you have more control over the situation. Are you guys getting counseling?