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kjlambers,
Just because your husband is wanting to adopt this child, does not automatically make his parents the "new" grandparents. The reason I say this is because my husband and I adopted a child from foster care who is now 12. When she was placed with us she was only 2, so she has been in our family for 10 years now. My husbands mother is one who believes "blood" is the most important thing. To this day out of all her grandchildren which are 8 including my daughter, if you ask her how many grands she has, she will tell you she has "7". She has never acknowledged that my daughter is one of her "grands". She definetely treats my daughter different. It took me many years to realize that this was HER problem. She also has 4 greatgrandkids, and I have seen the favortism she shows the others over our ddaughter. It is heartbreaking for us, because in my eyes my daughter is as much our child as my 30 year old son.
My advise and two cents, is really consider all options before you cut the paternal grandparents out of this childs life.

~Carol~