[mamatokay]

I am a grandmother, as well as an adopted mother. My bioilogical son is 30 and he has 2 kids. When he was going through his divorce, his ex-wife was trying to "punish" him. His child was only 3 days old when she decided that she did not want to be married any longer, after 4 1/2 years of marriage. He had to fight in the courts to be able to have a relationship with this child. Even though I had never ever treated this woman bad, the one thing she did to get at my son was to tell the judge that I was "pshycologically unfit" to be around her child. Let me say this was my sons second marriage, he did seem to jump in to things with both feet and with eyes closed. (His first marriage was at 18 in military and we have a grandchild from that who is 10) Thank God we live in a small town, and the judge didnt believe her because after all, my husband and I were foster parents approved by the state, and also we own our business so it didnt hold up and the judge saw through her. A few months ago my son became angry at his father and me about something stupid and he decided that he didnt need his father or I in his life at that time, so when he had his week-end visits he would not let us see the baby, so the mother of my grandbaby called me, said she had matured quite a bit and knew that ds was not allowing me to see the baby on his visits (let me say this only went on for only a couple of months). She told me that she knew how important we had become in our grandsons life, and even if my ds, was acting like an idiot, she would not allow him to keep us away from the baby. She acknowledged to me that she knew we were very important in this childs life and how much this child loved us. Said that everytime he came home from a visit he constantly talked about us. She offered to let me come get him when we wanted him and to also bring him to us whenever we wanted to spend time with him. The point I am trying to make, is just because my son and his ex-wife had problems did not make us any less this babys grandparents or love this child any less. I would have been devistated if she or he had kept us out of his life. By the way, my grandson will be 3 in August and he definetly knows and loves his "Nana" and PaPa". I know if I were to loose my son, I would fight to the end to be able to have this relationship with my grandkids.

~Carol~