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Just had to throw in my two cents worth since the topic is one we face a lot. My son's birthmother and my husbands sister look more like each other than my husband and his sister. As a result, my son looks exactly like my sister-n-law, so many people talk about how much he looks like his dad. His birthmother thinks it's great, but I have no idea how my son will feel about it when he's older since he's so little now. My daughter on the other hand is older. Her birthmother and me resemble each other a lot. People always tell us we look just alike, and I can see the hurt on her face as she was a foster/adopt and lived with her birthmom for seven years. I would love some advice on what to tell her that she will understand that people aren't trying to take away from her birthmom as most people don't know even know she was adopted. My youngest daughter doesn't look like any of us, aparents or bparents, so that will never be an issue, lol.
Also, and I do think this is true, a friend of mine once told me that children will imitate their parents facial expressions and that may be what people are seeing when they say they look just like their amom or their adad. Their is no denying though that both my son and my oldest daughter look exactly like their bmoms.
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