[Stormy]

I have a 4 year old son who is a biological child and a 10 mo. old son who is adopted. we could have more biological children but we just felt called to adopt. We wanted to adopt a child who needed us. we adopted an AA boy who had special needs. For me it was about not being pregnant again (it was a very difficult pregnancy) and bringing a child who greatly needed a family into ours. My husband had always felt led to adoption due to not wanting to add to population growth and wanting to give a home to a child who was in need. I think we all have our reasons for choosing adoption, no matter how complex. And to be honest it isn't anyones right to quiz us on those reasons. If it is right for us, and right for our child, then that is ALL that matters. When people had asked us why we would adopt, being that we could still have children biologically, we found that an easy answer that covered all the bases and ended the discussion with little debate was "we felt called to adopt". It isn't such a statement of faith as it is truth. Something in us has led us to a place where we felt we had no choice in our souls but to adopt. We get either a knowing nod with that response or no more discussion on the topic, depending on the persons understanding of the concept of being "called" to do something. Sometimes you want to talk endlessly about adoption, and sometimes you just want to be a family. I can tell you that my love for my two sons is no different. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I didn't give birth to my youngest son. Not because of anything strange, but because my feelings and emotion are so much the same. I brought both my children home from the hospital and began parenting them that day. I just didn't give birth to one.