I am a a-mom. My son and his b-mom came to me when he was 3 days old. I never planned on adopting. I was only to be their foster mom. They lived with me for a year together then she went to learn how to live on her own and to get balenced on her own. Then she was suposto be able to have him. Well, it did not go as planned. So, I adopted egeraly. but I could not have done it if it was not open. I love her and her family. My son would have a hole in his heart if it was not open.
I do tho leave all the contact up to the b--family. I don't call her. I want it to be her choice. I don't ever want her to feel like I hurt her by bringing him over. So, go for it. Open is the way to go.
